US MEN ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR FAMILIES

Listen up men. We are the ones DIRECTLY responsible for our families. Period. Here is the skinny. Call it what you want, but here it is. Even though Eve gave Adam the fruit to eat in the garden, guess who was held responsible? The man is the head of the house, and our family is our responsibility.

So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate.

- Genesis 3:6

 That is how it factually went down. Who was responsible?

Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men, because all sinned—

- Romans 5:12

This verse says NOTHING about Eve. Adam failed to stand up and protect his family. Sin entered the world through Adam’s failure as a man.

Is there really any wonder why the world is in such a state today? Where are the men!?

For I looked, and there was no man;
I looked among them, but there was no counselor,
Who, when I asked of them, could answer a word.
Indeed they are all worthless;
Their works are nothing;
Their molded images are wind and confusion.

- Isaiah 41:28

Because we fail our families as men, because we are selfish boys, God moves His hand mightily against us. The consequences of our failures are dire and severe. God is pretty clear about the consequences.

Therefore I will give their wives to others,
And their fields to those who will inherit them;
Because from the least even to the greatest
Everyone is given to covetousness;
From the prophet even to the priest
Everyone deals falsely.

- Jeremiah 8:10

Thus says the Lord: ‘Behold, I will raise up adversity against you from your own house; and I will take your wives before your eyes and give them to your neighbor, and he shall lie with your wives in the sight of this sun.

- 2 Samuel 12:11

You shall betroth a wife, but another man shall lie with her; you shall build a house, but you shall not dwell in it; you shall plant a vineyard, but shall not gather its grapes.

- Deuteronomy 28:30

Are there problems in your home? Be a man. It is your responsibility to take care of and lead your family. God will not hold your wife responsible for your failures.

“I will not punish your daughters when they commit harlotry,
Nor your brides when they commit adultery;
For the men themselves go apart with harlots,
And offer sacrifices with a ritual harlot.
Therefore people who do not understand will be trampled.
- Hosea 4:14

To Be Head of Your Household

If you are facing difficult times in your marriage right, are going through a divorce, or are divorced I want you to take something to heart. If you have children, then do not take lightly how loudly your actions are speaking to them as you endure these difficult times. We can justify whatever we want, but it does not change the truth. For us men... Well, I will just talk first hand so that maybe it is easier to see looking at another person's life. I know that right now my daughter is watching her daddy. She is learning from me how a man should treat her. She is learning from me what commitment, or lack there of, looks like. She is learning whether God truly makes a difference, and she is learning about love and family. My son too is watching me. He is learning all the same, but for him I am teaching him how to love his wife and family. The choices and actions I take as relevant to my family will have a far reaching impact for generations. This being said... Consider carefully the choices you are making. I want my daughter to appreciate and expect her husband to be committed and fight for his family. I want my son to know what a husband loving his wife as Jesus loves the Church looks like. I refuse to pass along chains to my children, but am willing to set the bar and break those chains. I want the best for them. This is not all about you or me, and LOVE IS A CHOICE. You can CHOOSE to love, you have to. We must see more than ourselves in every situation.