Who Are You?

WHO ARE YOU? Most people cannot answer this fundamental question. If someone does give an answer to this question, they most frequently give a definition which is simply based subjectively on the things they do. Examples would be things like: “I am a good husband.” “I am a good wife.” “I am a basketball player.” “I am wealthy.” “I am poor.” None of these things are who a person is. They are all external from who a person is.

What if your husband died? Then you are no longer a wife. If you become injured and can no longer play sports, then you would no longer be a basketball player. What if you lost your job, subsequently losing all of your material possessions? You would no longer be wealthy. Based on subjectively defining yourself on external circumstances, then at the loss of any of them you become lost and undefined. What you have, and what you do, is NOT who you are.

WHO ARE YOU? What a basic question that is so difficult to answer! Most people never take the time to even search for this answer. How sad that so many of us go through life blindly not even knowing who we are. How can you change what you do not know?

If you keep getting in trouble with alcohol, then the world wants to tell you that you have an alcohol problem. WRONG! The alcohol is NOT the problem. We have institutions, classes, and legal systems that are structured on this misperception. External “things” are not the problem. Guns don’t kill people, people kill people. A person who gets in trouble for drinking has no more of an alcohol problem than a person who shoots someone has a gun problem!

The problem, and therein the solution, lies within the person. You, who is reading this post, is looking for answers for a problem that you probably haven’t even defined yet. I challenge you to take a good hard look at who you are. What do you stand for? If you lie, then you are a liar. Whether you get caught or not, because who you as a person is internal and NOT based on external influence. Are you a cheater? Are you honest? Are you faithful, or are you a flake? This is for you, so be honest with yourself!

Until you can honestly describe who you are, you cannot make ANY real changes. Get real with yourself, and search out some honest answers. Are you a prideful person? Are you humble? Once you have come to a concise conclusion of who you really are, you can then examine yourself and decide if you are happy with the answer.

We are masters of lying to ourselves. We very easily distort reality, or simply hide from the truth, and place the blame and responsibility on everything but ourselves. We blame a bad relationship on the other person. We blame our job for our lack of success. We blame a rough day for our lack of commitment to get off our butt and go to the gym.

The blame lies squarely on our shoulders. Quit the BS, and get real! Accept accountability, accept the truth of who you are, and then do something about it! You are responsible, and it is going to require you digging deep to get anywhere! WHO ARE YOU?